A Prayer for a Life Partner

Written: 11 September 2005

Few months ago, I thought that I will never need to pray like this again...
But God proved me wrong...
The situation now forced me to start from zero again...
And I start with this prayer...

Dear God in heaven...
Holy is Your name...
Thank You for raising me up until this day...
I have been very blessed to be able to know You, to be saved by You,
And I'm thankful for whatever I endure in this world so far...
Both the good and the bad...
Because I believe that whatever happened, it was Your plan...

(Submissiveness)
Dear God...
Today, let me utter this cry, this hope...
God, this is my prayer...
If this is Your will, let it be done in Your time...
But if it is not, please show me Your ways...

(My needs)
God, You know my need of a life partner, someone, just one woman, to be my wife...
I need someone with whom I will build a family that will serve You everyday... (Joshua 24:15)
I need someone that when we both together, we will be more effective to serve You... (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
Since the beginnings You've said that it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18)
And You know inside out the every reason why it is not good for me to be alone...
The passion to relate with the opposite gender that You have installed in me is so strong...
I don't want to burn in passion like what Your apostle Paul advised us... (1 Corinthians 7:9)
Because love is as strong as death... (Song of Songs 8:6)

(My requests)
Your servant is weak and tired Lord...
I'm tired of the searching process that I have endured since many years ago...
I don't want to divide this heart of mine to someone not of Your choice anymore...
Therefore, please Lord, if possible, that the next one will be the final one...

The one that You have provided for me...
The one who fears You and put You as number one and I'm number two... (Proverbs 31:30)
The one who can accept me as what I am...
The one whom I will love for the rest of my life as You have love the church... (Ephesians 5:25-31)
The one who will love me back in return... (Ephesians 5:22-24)

She may or may not known to me at the moment...
But when we meet...
Tell me Lord...
Let me know that she is Your choice for me...
Tell her Lord...
Let her know that I am Your choice for her...
Let the feelings towards each other grow...

(My worries, about myself)
But God...
I come with my own family background, my character, my vision, my self...
I want to be a university lecturer in the future... will she be able to accept that?
I have many very bad characters... will she be able to accept that?
Can she accept me as what I am...?

God, I still have many other reasons to worry...
And I'm really worried...

(My worries, about her)
God...
I hope that I can find a wife of noble character, but who can find her...? (Proverbs 31:10)
She will also carries her family background, her character, her vision, her self...
Will her vision be compatible with mine...?
I think I'm tolerable enough, but can I fully accept her character as she is...?
Am I strong enough to accept her as what she is...?

God, I still have many other reasons to worry...
And I'm really worried...

(Lessons learned...)
But God...
You have allowed me to learn the process of a relationship with all those that I've endured...
You have been with me always...
During all the happiness and all the bitterness...
I have learned that it takes more than just feelings towards each other...
It also takes more than just sacrifices...
And therefore I should not worry too much about all those things...
Because I know, You will always be with me...
And that without Your intervention, all relationship will not succeed...
This time, we will always keep you in our plan...

(The Hope...)
So please God...
When You finally let me meet her...
Let our future relationship ends up in a firm decision of marriage...
And our marriage receives Your favor... (Proverbs 18:22)

On that day, I will say to her:
"You are bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh" (Genesis 2:23)
"Now, let both of us do great things for Him in the future..."

(Closing statements...)
Finally, don't worry God...
You will still be number one and she will be number two...
And I believe that she will be fine with that =)

In Jesus name I've prayed...
Please answer this prayer in Your time...
And give Your servant a heart patient enough to wait...
And let her know of this prayer too...
Thank You...
Amen...